Sex, Blunts, and Beats
Published by Haseeb July 5th, 2005 in ICNA, IslamThis is the first of a series of posts I will write consisting of notes I took from the ICNA conference this past weekend. These notes will be on the Friday Night Youth Session (Brothers only) talk Saturday.
The talk was primarily about the evils of sex, drugs/smoking, and harmful music. These three actions are actually serious DISEASES, due to our nafs, and its weakness. The reason why so many of our youth are tempted to do these things is because our hearts are diseased.
And remember, ’sex’ is zina - adultery, and refers not only to intercourse, but to any actions that MAY lead up to it. This includes pretty much any physical contact at all with a person of the opposite gender.
Why do we get tempted into sex/drugs?
1. We want IMMEDIATE pleasure, or an IMMEDIATE high.
2. We want to attain some level of popular status amongs our peers.
The Cure to this Disease:
To understand that this ‘immediate gratification’ will in fact lead to an eternal damnation! - The high or pleasure will eventually end, and if anything will make us dependent or used to this feeling and become addicted to it. The only true and real happiness and pleasure is from the love and nearness to Allah 
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Brother Altaf Hussein then talked about satisfying desires - its not inherently wrong to do that but theres the right means of doing so (with Allah ’s guidance) and the wrong way.
He then warned us of the repercussions of our sinful actions, for they are ultimately due to our heedlessness and forgetfulness of Allah ’s guidance. The Quran actually warns us that if the believers done prepare for their actions, and if we become heedless, then eventually Allah may cause us to become more forgetful. Wow, thats scary!
However, what if you have committed zina, or did drugs or something. Allah is All-Merciful and The Forgiving. Remember, Allah has guaranteed us that there is no sin he cannot forgive except shirk. There are three steps (and a conditional 4th) for repentance:
1. Be sincere in your tawbah.
2. Make a committment that you will never commit that sin ever again.
3. You must really feel sorry and repent for the sin you have committed.
*4. If the sin involves another person, you must ask forgiveness from him/her as well.
And it isnt abnormal to feel this urge towards zina. Allah has made it desirable for us to love women - however, for us this is a test. Allah has made humans different from animals. Whereas animals only act on instict based on pure desires, humans have ‘aql. And aql cannot be limited in its definition to reason or intelligence, as the arabic word has a much deeper connotation which comes from the root, “to tie”. Therefore to have ‘aql is to have control, or be able to “tie” down ones desires. To remain unable to control our desries makes us no better than animals.
And there are good vs. bad ways to fulfill these desires. The Good ways are:
1. Get married as soon as possible. (As soon as one is physically, emotionally, and financially able to do so)
2. Fast (to build will power)
And remember, if a person has committed haraam actions including zina, or anything else, and once he or she has repented - it is as if he/she has never committed this act. Along with this forgiveness, comes an overwhelming opinion from the consensus of traditional texts that these past sins/relationships be never brought up or mentioned again.
this is very good of you brother mashaAllah you have gained ‘ilm and have now shared it with others instead of leaving it in your notebook for no one to see and learn from. may Allah
subhana wa t’ala bless you for this .:amen:.
ditto,
can punish them in various ways; one of which is, that Allah 
will cause a female member of their household to committ a sin, and in Muslim culture this is a disgrace to the family more-so. So remember that it is not about me me me or my desires or selfish gains, it is also about holding up family honor and having haya’ or sense of shame before committing sins.
thank you for sharing this post with us. It is very important for many young men and boys to also realize taht if they commit zina( fornication or adultery) AND do not repent, Allah
Also, very good point you mentioned that once a person truely repents and never goes back to it, it is as if they never comitted a sin.
I wish however, that this information was also given to sisters, as the women in this society equally have become prone to this evil.
Ma’asalama.
I am glad people are actually benefitting or at least appreciating from my posting of notes from the conference (and other talks for that matter).
Inshallah i will post up more notes from the conference later this week.
if a man commits zina and does not repent, why would a woman from the household be caused to commit a sin? how is that a punishment for the man, especically if he never knows about it?
I think you misread what he was talking about, KohiNOOR and also i think anonymous really needs to rethink his/her post as well.
first and foremost, Allah
, ‘azza wa jal, is in full control of anything and everything including our lives, otherwise He wouldn’t be Allah 
. You should realize that it is us who writes out our book of deeds, our lives aren’ just random events that we really have no control over. Think of it as it being us who writes out the book, but that Allah 
, ‘azza wa jal, already knows what we’re going to write. So be really careful when you say something like ‘Allah 
will cause a female member of their household to committ a sin’.
Now as far as the content of what you meant to say and to address KohiNOOR’s ….. A person is tested with unique situations and tests, the outcome of these tests, much like the outcome of the tests we take in school, are directly responsible for the person’s future. However you must also realize that no one lives alone and that people are grouped together with the Wisdom of Allah
, ‘azza wa jal. And so the test to befall one person also affects the people around them. Is this making any sense?
Also anonymous, it should be pointed out that it is a belief in Islam is that no one shall bear the sins of another, so i would really rethink your statment again.
I think, I might not have clear about what I meant. Offcourse the sin of the person is his sin and he is going to bear the burden of it. I actually heard this in a hadith, translation ofcourse. Allah
knows whether the female member of the household commits a sin or not that is obviously her free will to do so and Allah 
knows how she will use the free will. But this can become a means for the man to be in torture, if he finds out and there is shame brought on the family or if the female member of his household is hurt in any way due to this(STDs, unwanted pregnacy and otherwise).
can punish the person in any way possible and even through a way he or she did not imagine . So besides the conventional punishments of STDs, AIDs, paternity issue, bad reputation, etc.
knows) punished by another man taking advantage of or sleeping with his women of household.
So in general a person should think multiple times and Allah
If a man took advantage of another woman(even if it was consentual), then he can be (I am not saying it is definite he will be, only Allah
And just as he would hate any of his female household members to be doing zina, he should think twice before comitting zina with a woman that is a member of some other man’s household.
I hope I clarified some of what I meant, I was not making up that stuff, but I actually heard it part of a hadith, you can search for me and let me know if it is true, as I would like to know for sure,
thanks.
Quote: “And remember, ’sex’ is zina - adultery, and refers not only to intercourse, but to any actions that MAY lead up to it. This includes pretty much any physical contact at all with a person of the opposite gender.”
Could you expand on this please?
Sure, in Islam basically you cant touch any female of the opposite gender who can be a potential spouse. Therefore of course ur allowed to touch your close relatives, and children, and elderly. Generally this means, that Muslims arent only prohibited from premarital sex, but from all touching between a female and a male (kissing, hugging, etc.). Moreover it is forbidden for a male and a female (besides those exceptions i mentioned earlier) to be alone together. According to a hadith, when a man and a woman are alone together, satan is always present.
While Haseeb’s explanation is understood, let us be clear that according to the practice of the Prophet Muhammad
Pbuh and the scholars of islam zina refers to literal sexual intercourse involving penetration. This is what requires four witnesses and this is what is punished by floggings and stoning. The physical contact is, depending on its nature, haram or mubah (that which may lead to zina).
Shareef Muhammad
Wow, you REALLY know how to strike conversation through your topics…